Living forward is a great book that help solves one big problem living life unintentionally which results in drifting through life.
Why do we drift through life the book points out four reasons?
- It happens when we are unaware – we all have ideas about life that are inaccurate until we see differently we just don’t know.
- It happens when we are distracted.
- It happens when we are overwhelmed.
- It happens when we are deceived – we are often unconscious about the relationship between our beliefs and reality.
Some quotes and thought that resonates throughout the book
The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide you are not going to stay where you are – J P Morgan
All external expectations all pride all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things fall away in the face of death leaving only what is truly important – Steve jobs
Self-leadership always precedes team leadership and a life plan can be one of the most powerful tools to help you best lead yourself.
The value of a life plan is that it helps you become an active participant in your life, it helps you in intentionally shaping your future.
The goal of the book was to
- Help you become aware of your current location
- Decide where you want to go
- Start working towards your destination
And after reading the book I would say it fulfilled the goal.
When you have a plan every day becomes an opportunity to move towards your destination and even though you can’t change the past we all have the power to change the future.
Review of the Three-part in the book
Part one: See the need
Here you get to acknowledge the drift and realised the consequences for not taking action.
One of the biggest consequences for me was regret. The thing about regret is that you cannot do anything about it one way to prevent ever regretting your life is to plan it.
You also get to understand what a life plan is which defined in the book is a short-written document, usually eight to fifteen pages long. It is created by you for you. It describes how you want to be remembered, it articulates your personal priorities. It provides the specific actions necessary to take you from where you are to where you want to be in every major area of your life. It is most of all a living document that you will tweak and adjust as necessary for the rest of your life.
You also learn to see the value of good question – you learn about the three question that forms the life plan which are:
How do I want to be remembered?
What matters most?
How can I get from here to where I want to be?
Lastly in this section you learn the benefit of having a life plan – one benefits that stood out to me was filtering opportunities a lot of times people take on supposed opportunities that in themselves are really not opportunities but how would you know how to differentiate this if you didn’t have a filtering process, the life plan answers this.
Another benefit was clarifying priorities realising that one life account wasn’t your whole life and having the ability to choose the one that was of most importance to you.
Part two: Create your plan
This section in the book is where you actually create your life plan – this is probably the most intensive area of the book.
You get to answer the question you have asked earlier, you design your legacy – what you want to remember for, you write your life statement as you would want to be remembered, you determine your what matters most – your priorities and then you create action plans that will help you in achieving them.
The first thing is you get to ask yourselves where it is all going how is it going to end if you continued on this path what outcomes do you want?
The end determines everything else the characters you include in your story the roles they play in your life and you in theirs, the project you initiate and the way you conduct your affairs.
Everyone is in the process of leaving a legacy the question is not will you leave a legacy but what kind of legacy will you leave.
Secondly, you also get to determine your priorities – what is important to you, you create your life accounts the goal is to strive for a positive balance in each of your life account which is experiencing – passion and progress.
One thing I learnt from reading this book is that it was not enough to have priorities it was essential to have them in the right order so here you arrange your life account in priority from the most important to least important – all of them are important but not all of them have the same level importance.
Ranking your life account forces, you to decide what takes precedence if push comes to shove and shoving will always happen.
Ask what is the most important account on my list what is the one I would not be willing to sacrifice no matter what.
Then lastly you plan your course of action by creating a purpose statement, envisioning a future, identifying where you are now and creating next step action to move you to your envisioned future.
Part three- Make it happen
Here you learn how to implement your plan realising that your action plan needs to be scheduled into your normal day to day routine.
It teaches how to create margin by:
Triage your calendar – you know what thing you can cancel or reschedule and which ones demand your participation
Scheduling your priorities – using an ideal week and annual calendar blocks
Learn to say no with grace using the Yes- No – Yes technique
You also get to about how to review your life plan daily, weekly, quarterly review and yearly and why it is important.
In summary reading, this book would give you the clarity about what it is you want from your life and the action steps to make towards achieving those dreams.
Real transformation happens when people take responsibility for their own lives and begin to live intentionally in every area.
The power is in your hands to make changes you have been given a gift called this life – what will you do about it.
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Discovery magic call is one book that has left a lasting impression on me especially as it relates to my online business client acquisition process. Why you might ask? well, I am going to give you a brief review of some of the main points I learnt while reading the book.
But before that, I just wanted to note one of the reasons why I like this book and I highly recommend. It is a very practical book like if you have ever wanted to know what to do on a discovery call which is by far the highest method for converting a high-end client then this book will show you how in practical steps from the process set up to the conservation you are to have to even what to say – it literally broken down for you. I don’t think it can get any more practical than this.
What stood out for me – points that created a mental shift for me are the following
The definition of what a discovery call is which defined by DJ Sobanjo is a conversation with a qualified prospect that helps them become a client or a customer
The words highlighted are purposeful – this is supposed to be a conversation meaning It is a two-way thing and like my sister noted one day while listening to my supposed discovery call if you are talking too much there is a problem it has definitely moved from a conversation to you neither coaching or doing something different altogether but definitely not a discover call.
But what caught me on about this definition is the second part a qualified lead. It was actually while I read this book that I realized that there was a difference between a lead and a prospect I always thought they were the same, for me it looked like this – get people in through a lead generation funnel and then speak to them but I was so wrong getting people into your funnel is just part one of the steps you have to find ways to qualify them to become prospects.
It is only after qualifying them that they qualify for your discovery call (I am sorry for using too many q- word aka qualify, do bear with me), but realizing this alone was worth the price of the book there were two methods mentioned on how to qualify leads you should get the book to get the full gist.
The next thing that stood out for me is that you help the prospect become a client – you don’t sell to them you help them – this involves a total mental shift and as Zig Ziglar says you will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want the same is true during a discovery call you are not looking to sell to them you are looking to help them get what they want through your solutions.
You are not looking at people as number but as people who have a goal, some aspiration that you have the solution to for – this mental shift is subtle but it can mean the reason why you tell a prospect that you are not a good fit for them at the moment for which they will respect you for being honest or you try to get their money hoping that your solution would help them which they later find out won’t and totally hate you for it.
Apart from this definition of what a discovery call is another thing I learnt is understanding how fear can hinder your discovery call. He explained that fear can show itself in three main ways
- You tell your prospect too much information that they think they can do it without you which they can’t
- You withhold information hoping your prospect would really want to know more so that they can buy your product which they might not
- Or lastly, once your prospect tells you an area of challenge you hit them hard by selling to them not helping them which gets them scared and they don’t buy.
If there is one confession I would make it is that I have done all three and realizing this makes me know what the source is – FEAR. The easiest way to deal with fear is to, first of all, know what you are fearful of and then face it – fear really is an illusion.
Like this was not enough this book goes on to tell you why customer buy which is simply – BELIEF
It really funny when I think of the four-belief shared in this book as I reflect on the things I have purchased I see that they resonate. What are the four beliefs your prospect needs to have
- Belief in their dreams – your client needs to dream again they need to believe they can write that book, lose that weight, whatever it is they need to dream again.
- Belief in themselves – they need to see themselves being able to do it, that where your story comes in
- Belief in you – they need to know you can help them get there, that you have done it before and can do it again for them.
- Belief in your process – they need to believe that your process can get them from where they are to where they need to be in a simple and convenient manner
If you really want the full gist of these beliefs you should get the book Here
Another thing I learnt was what to do before the discovery call – how I needed to establish authority, what questions to ask, how to prepare, the things to do during the discovery call what to say, how to respond to certain objection etc.
The reality is that this book is a total solution to a lot of coaches, speaker and consultant whose major income originates from having discovery calls it gives a detailed blueprint and I truly believe that anyone who reads this book will definitely start having a better discovery call result.
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So, tell me what is your biggest takeaway from this book review and would you be getting the book?
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My Journey to Finding Grace – the reason why I wrote Finding grace
When did I have an encounter with Grace you might ask – during my service Year.
I finished school and was excited to be leaving Lagos state for my NYSC deployment.
After graduation, I set for my National service, and since I didn’t hustle to change my state of deployment I was sent to Edo state.
In my quest for prayers to protect me throughout my stay in Edo state, I visited my father-in-the-Lord and bam! I was warned of the grace message.
He warned me to watch out for those people that preached grace, that God was a consuming fire and I would be punished by Him (God) whenever I did wrong.
With that in mind (fortified and ready), I did set out for Edo state.
But you know the irony of having a good Father like our God, just when you think you know all the answers, He starts letting you know “girl, you don’t have it all correct” –and that’s just what happened.
The first friend I made, spoke to me about ‘God’s grace’ and I was like huh? “I reject you in Jesus name!” I can recall how much we argued on a particular day on the subject That I said; “…can’t we agree to disagree on this matter what’s your issue?” …but persistence always wins.
While the first person who talked to me about grace wasn’t the one who got me listening, he certainly sowed the seed; after all, I still believed my bible and when someone keeps on referring to the same bible, I was like “you know what, I will check it up”, and that’s what I did.
It’s funny (and remarkable) how after some searching of the scriptures, pushed by another friend and digesting lots of messages, I came to a realization of how wrong I was and how misleading my spiritual fathers were as regard ‘Grace’.
Although with good intentions, so as to protect me from the luke-warm, sitting-on-the-fence preaching, my ‘fathers’ failed to personally search out this truth from the scriptures before passing judgment or maybe they knew the truth but didn’t think I could handle it.
I realized some truths during this season of my life.
I learned to put God’s word above others. And the more I did this, the more every doctrine I held dear kept crashing down.
I began to understand how those motives are more important to God than action.
I also realized that serving God is the consequence of a relationship with my father and not a result of doctrinal-duty. God isn’t a taskmaster He is a good father!
But why write Finding Grace?
Finding Grace is a novel that helps you understand what grace means it is my story of what grace means and it can be yours also.
When I thought of writing a book on grace (Based on my new knowledge and experience) I started with a blank page what was it going to be all.
But where do I begin? So, I started with a question
Where does the knowledge of grace come from?
You see I have come to realize their three-ways of seeing things
- One formed out of ignorance — you simply don’t know – the cure is to get knowledge on it.
- One formed from wrong knowledge. You know but what you know is wrong — you need to remove the wrong belief first before putting in a new one; people call this relearning.
- One formed from the right information.
Well for Grace, it was a topic of relearning a lot of things for me especially since I thought I knew it. When it comes to spiritual truth a lot of us allow people we look up to, to define what we believe and while this in itself isn’t wrong, what if they are wrong? what if they are not totally right?
I learned that as any subject people can always take it overboard or use their ignorance on the topic to form an opinion that is wrong, most times they do it from a sincere heart but I would rather they said nothing on the topic than give wrong impressions. The only solution to this issue, in reality, is to take God’s word as the final say beyond any man’s word.
We do assume we do. But in our daily lives is this true?
When I started studying what grace was, I must confess I had to turn several times to look at the cover page of my bible to be sure I was reading the Word of God it was so plainly stated there that I couldn’t believe what I had been previously told (of course those verses had been taken out of context).
So, while I am still on the journey to know all about God I must say finding what grace is has helped me and trust me Grace isn’t an exhaustive topic. Grace is Jesus personified, Grace is the way we get things from God. The understanding of Grace is never really a full stop it all commas.
So, to you I say how do you find Grace — Read the Word of God (especially the book of Romans) and ask God for more understanding on it and while you are at it, you can also read my novel on it.
I wrote Finding Grace as a novel because I like to read novels and some of the greatest truth I have encountered came from novels – where I saw myself in the shoes of those characters and those impressions created a lasting memory for me.
I want readers to see themselves in Titi’s story – I want them to feel her pains and understand her life, why she was doing the things she did and also find God grace as she did.
A novel can never be a substitute for the bible but I hope by reading Finding Grace you get closer to God.
To get the first five chapters free click on this link and you will go to a page that gives you the necessary directions to have a copy.
I truly desire that everyone encounter God grace because it has the power to radically change your life forever.
God purpose – God original intention for creating you. Purpose is defined by reason. for what reason did God count creating me necessarily.
For what reason did God count creating you necessarily.
God’s assignment- is God service call for you on the earth that is consistent with His ultimate purpose.
Being a Gardener was Adams assignment being in fellowship was His purpose.
We are created for fellowship and relationship – that is our ultimate purpose.
The Ultimate purpose of every man is in his personal ministry to his creator you were created to please God.
No God – no Purpose – it also impossible to discern your assignment for life without knowing God.
Our discovering of our assignment is dependent on how intimate we are with the spirit of God.
You need to trust that God plans are better than yours.
God reveals his plans in phases – Isaiah 28:10
“He tells us everything over and over –
One line at a time
One line at a time
A little here,
A little there !”
For more reading check this link What is my purpose
This book is the second book – the first being the harvest of rubies
These books are simply amazing they walk us through the journey of Marcus and Sarah and several times in the book I saw myself as Marcus and Sarah.
Harvest of Gold focused on the rebuilding of the temple in Jerusalem by Nehemiah the struggle he faced, the strain that occurred in Sarah’s marriage, but above all, it talks to us about a God that loves us irrevocably and can turn the outcomes of our lives into that of gold
The following are some areas in the book that deeply touched me and answered some questions
I feel that the Lord has left me too- I feel abandoned by the Lord
Sometimes the heart goes through such a deep valley that the lord is overshadowed by its darkness. the trick is when you feel God has let you go you don’t let go of God cling to Him anyway and you will find that He never abandoned you – He remained near all along I am convinced He knows your pain and seeks to give you rest in the midst of it
What do you think destiny is?
A smooth path that never jostles you? no, when you walk in destiny you will crash and fall more times you can count BUT the secret is to hold on to God’s vision for your life — and for the lives of those, He puts in your charge. No matter how many times you fall, crash and fail you get up. You get up and face your obstacles
Something a little girl needs –
Love, companionship, the knowledge that she is wanted and valued and when they don’t receive it they learn to trust no one themselves
“ I was the one to take care of me. No one else could do that”
God sometimes calls us to build something for him – in order to do that you have to rebuild the ruins of your early life.
The enemies of the world – the dark forces of evil that we have against us; nagging doubts, the forces that have already come against you, your childhood, bitterness, detachment, unforgiveness.
We need the weapon of God to survive
Well unless God becomes your God you won’t have access to His power
God Love for us
The Lord cared for him as an individual. He had not chosen God had chosen him, he had not been chosen because he was the strongest or best God had chosen him simply the LORD OF THE UNIVERSE LOVED HIM. HE LOVED (YOUR NAME) WITH AN UNFAILING LOVE”
The lord had been with him through every single moment of the ravages of his childhood when he thought himself alone the lord had been with him loving him guiding him the lord had known every sorry every childhood fear and had never -NEVER -ABANDONED HIM