by Seun Yewande Williams | May 25, 2017 | Life lessons and Others
You need a support system to achieve your goals
Ever heard the word man is not an island and that you are the average of the five people you spend your time with well this is true and that is what support systems are.
Support Systems are people, information, group and community of like-minded people who understand where you are and have the resources to get you to where you want to be.
Your support system would make or break your dreams. If you are all alone in the pursuit of your dreams you are in trouble even if you don’t know it
And yes, I know there are people who may have said they did it alone but really?
When you understand the types of support based on the classification I have derived you will realize that there is really no one who has done it alone, maybe personally they didn’t have a team of people around them but they had books, resources of great men they could read and understand.
Types of Supports Systems
There are basically Four systems you need although they may vary in term of how they look they are all classified under four support systems
- The Information support systems – This comprises of books, teaching, lesson, schools you attend to help you in understanding more clearly your goals and the things you want to achieve. An example could be a course on digital marketing – this helps you in your goal of becoming a digital marketer.
- A coach or mentor support system- The basic difference between the two is cost. A mentor rarely cost you money to get, it more of an interest and likability factor. While a coach would cost you some income to hire. But the common factor is that these people have been to where you are and have the solutions and answers you need.
- Accountability Partner – This is one of the most effective areas that is usually missing but is a sweet spot to achieving your goal, this creates the intentionality needed to actually do what is required to be done every day.
- Groups or the community you belong to – we all need people around us cheering us up and pushing us to where we want to go to in life. A community could be offline or online, it could come in the form of a mastermind or just a group of people with similar interest that stay around each other to cheer and support one another
You need supports systems.
by Seun Yewande Williams | May 11, 2017 | Life lessons and Others
So just in case, you didn’t know you are unique and you are special.
There is only one of you and any other is a fake version of you.
But one major thing that happens is we forget how unique we are as an individual.
We lose touch of our awesomeness and the noise around us drown out our beauty.
We try to compare ourselves with other individuals we want to emulate, the thing about emulating someone is if you not careful you forget what and who you are about.
So, what makes you unique as an individual?
One of the most comprehensive analyses I have used to answer this question came from Eric Rees book titled SHAPE which took me about 3 years to complete (yes it was that serious).
SHAPE stands for
S- Spiritual gifts
H – Heart
A – Abilities
P – Personality
E – Experience
Understanding your SHAPE
Okay so that is SHAPE but how does it relate to you – well it relates when you understand each component and the question they propose. Let go over each segment
Spiritual Gift – these are God-given gifts, you don’t do anything to deserve it. it is God-given
A point to note here is that since it is God-given you want to look outward not inward. You want to ask God for clarity and also see where you have some gifting in
Every born-again Christian has a spiritual gift – it usually might not be the most obvious ones but you have it
You also want to avoid 3 mistakes
- Rejection – this is rejecting your gift
- Comparison – you don’t want to compare yourself with others (totally not wise)
- Projection – just because you are good at something doesn’t mean everyone would be
Top 3 Question to ask here are
- What spiritual gift do I have?
- What areas of service have I function in that gave me the greatest joy and vice versa?
- What can I do currently that I know wasn’t based on any intelligence or resource from me?
Heart – these really is about what you are passionate about, it is all about what your heart beats for, what you want to change in the world.
Things that cause you sadness and pain.
Questions to ask
- who does your heartbeat for – children, family, families etc
- What need do you want to meet – emotional needs, physical needs etc.
- How will you meet the need – by serving, by writing a book — how exactly?
Abilities – this talks about your talent, skill-set, and know-how. These are things you naturally excel at sometimes you wonder while others don’t enjoy them as you do.
They are also things you might have learnt over the years and then have developed enough efficiency in it. So yes, you want to ask yourself these question
- What am I good at doing?
- What could I do every day for the rest of my life?
- What have people thanked me for doing that I didn’t see as anything?
- What skill, information, to-do have I developed efficiency in?
Personality – this is the way you express your gifting’s and talent. It is the way you respond to opportunities and risk
what you want to look at when thinking of personality – is
- How do I respond to opportunities?
- How do I respond to leadership?
- How do I like to position myself?
Their lots of test that have been carried out to understanding who we are as individuals and the more you understand yourself, the more it is easier for you to understand the way you act
Experience -these are our unique life experience – nobody has lived the same life as you.
No matter how similar your life might look to some else is still not the same
Even sibling living in the same home, under the same parental care never fully internalize the same experience the same way. This is just to say you are different
So, top questions to ask here is
- What is my top good experience?
- What are my top bad experiences?
- What has shaped me into who I am now?
The answers to this question will help you see how special and unique you are
by Seun Yewande Williams | May 4, 2017 | Life lessons and Others
You might not know this but your past is affecting your present.
Our past is everything that has happened from your birth till yesterday all are your past.
But to really understand the influence of your past you need to see how it is affecting you as an individual.
The way you see life is a result of your past.
your belief system Is a result of your past.
Your hopes and dreams are rooted from your past and while you might not be fully conscious of it, your past is going to affect your future.
How do you know which events in your past are affecting you
There are lots of events in your past that could affect you but there are some questions that can help you understand the big influences of your past
Here is a list of ten areas to check
- What was your background like?
- What kind of parents did you have and what was their relationship?
- How was your parent relationship with you?
- Who had a greater influence on you in your growing up days and why?
- Who had the most negative influence in your life?
- Who are you angry at?
- What do you like about yourself and why?
- What don’t you like about yourself and why?
- What were your best memories growing up?
- What were your worst memories?
Answering these questions would give you a deeper clarity on your past.
by Seun Yewande Williams | Apr 27, 2017 | Life lessons and Others
“I want to have lots of money ” says Bukky
and without saying nothing I know it won’t come to pass
You see I was like Bukky only I was in school and I wrote a goal down every year and never could understand why it never came to pass
I wanted to have a million buck by year-end
so frustrated was I that I thought I should give up my dreams for financial independence
you see there was nothing wrong with the goal itself except for the How
How was I going to actually get a million by year-end
Money only comes to those who provide quality service and product
And since I never offered any service or product no money came
But this is just one problem with vague goals
Which I would define as a goal which cannot be measured
Some popular examples are – I want to be rich, I am want to be famous, I want to be healthy, I want to be the best husband or best wife.
The problem with vague goals is that it looks like it is really a goal but it isn’t
Goals have a beginning point
Goals have ending points
Goals are dependent on what you can make happen and not things beyond your control
Goals are realistic with your mindset
Goals are very Specific
One way to spot Vague Goals you have set
simply ask yourself would I know when I have accomplished this feat
If NO – then, make it more measurable
If YES – then, ask the How?
The How of your goals is really the sum total of all the actions you would take that would give you the desired result you seek.
So if your goals can be measured – list out the next 10 possible actions to take.
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Hi my name is Seun Yewande Williams and I help individuals and businesses share their knowledge, skills and experiences through books. Welcome.
